8 New Years resolutions that are truly life changing.
It’s the beginning of the year again and what do we have to show for it? Globally? Personally? So many times we reflect on the year that passed and proclaim “Next year will be better!” but in most cases, we don’t know exactly how to achieve that “better”. Nor do we know what “better” actually means. Most of us are stuck in cyclical patterns, the proof of that would be to look at your life over the past 5 years, relationships, careers, has much changed? has it improved? Or does it look like constant reruns of “this is my life.”
And then the doomsayers, not making it any better talking about 2012 as the end of the world. But how bad would it be for us to live our lives as if it was the end of the world, any minute now. What would we change? Every day is an act of faith, because whether we acknowledge it or not the end of life could happen in one minute. We know that just by watching the news, just ask the people in Japan.
And the age old question pops up “if you had one year to live what would you do?” that’s when everyone’s dreams come to surface, and their eyes light up with glee, imagining all the potential, crazy, wonderful adventures they would create. Who hear would keep their lives the same if they knew they had one more year to live?? Well here’s my question: HOW DO YOU KNOW YOU DON’T!?
We often talk about our lives as two entities, the life we live and the life we dream to live. Rarely do people have the ability to mesh the two together, sadly as a result we are left spinning that hamster wheel and living the hand that’s dealt to us. However, I know that even if we stay in the same house, in the same city, in the same job, the potential for a better life still awaits. I believe that we all have the power to affect EVERYTHING that happens on this earth. That we are all connected through energy and have the ability to influence people, animals, plants, inanimate objects, everything. So with that in mind, knowing that if I can change some things on a personal level to impact the universe on a global level then I sure as hell am going to try!! So here’s my New Years wish list for 2012 and those of you who want to join in, I would love to have as many partners as possible!!
Sari’s New Years Wish List for 2012:
- STOP COMPLAINING: That’s it, nothing more complicated than that. Just stop. Every time you feel a complaint coming on, try to replace it with a positive statement. “Oh my stomach hurts” can turn into “Oh this bed is very comfortable” – This one is a tough one because we are so conditioned to whine, which is why it’s the first one on the list!
- BE AWARE OF YOUR THOUGHTS: Everything you think and focus on grows. It will manifest in your body in terms of illness and will outwardly affect those around you. Especially when the angry, frustrated thoughts rear their ugly heads as a knee jerk reaction to outside influences. A lot of us already know that our thoughts are the most powerful weapons we possess. But they come in so fast, how do we get control? We change the thought and don’t beat ourselves up about it. “That asshole just cut me off, I wish he has the worst day ever!” can be changed to.. “That asshole just cut me off…stop…sigh, I accept that he’s probably not in the best place right now and can let that go and not take on the unnecessary energy that will harm my body as a result” Then think about the cutest thing in the world, like this:
how can you feel pissed after thinking about this little guy? That’s the point, we have to bring it back to simplicity and brush off the things that don’t matter in the big picture. Stay focused on the big picture and the little annoyances will matter less. - Laugh when no one is watching: And laugh when everyone is watching! Laughter cures all. On the days you are sad, angry or feeling blue, your thoughts and emotions are creating cells that have those emotions attached to it. So the more you focus on those types of emotions the more cells you create with those emotions embedded, the more days you will find yourself feeling those emotions. What a vicious cycle! This is can be extremely challenging, but if you can laugh and even dance when you are not happy, you will see wondrous changes in your life! We tend to get “STUCK” in the upset and revel and dwell when we can truly snap ourselves out of it in minutes if we CHOOSE that intention.
- Watch your words: We know that what we say to people can really affect them and us and it’s a given that we should choose our words carefully. More importantly how we talk about others to other people. Gossip is a dangerous game and too often we are blabbing away about one person or another, not understanding the detrimental damage we are creating on a universal level. I’m not only talking about the people we know, I’m talking about famous people, politicians, anyone! Now you may say “well if i can’t voice my opinion then what happens to freedom of speech?” Well, you can choose how to voice that opinion, what to say in a positive way by still communicating your point. You can’t take back what you put out into the world, and once it’s gone, the repercussions are now out of your control. Personally I wouldn’t want that burden on my shoulders, and keep in mind, when we are putting someone down, it’s just mirroring our own insecurities of becoming that trait that we are condemning.
- LOVE THYSELF: Ah yes… self loving, such a difficult accomplishment. Isn’t it weird though? That we find it so hard to love ourselves when we are all we really have? I’m sure there are many extenuating reasons for each individuals self loathing but we have a choice to stop this madness and start instilling LOVE into our bodies!! We have to not rely on others to fill our cup with love, we have to love ourselves, every day and banish all negative thoughts. No it’s not easy being green, but we can start step by step every morning with a mantra “I love you, I love my body, I love my soul.” say it! I AM AWESOME! and again! and again! I hope you are saying it now!
- Sharing is caring: Our dreams are meant to come true especially when the intent of what we want is pure and driven by the desire to share and extend our abundance to the people around us and beyond! So when you ask the universe or write down your goals and dreams, think about what you are going to do when you receive it. How will it help those around you? How will you extend that happiness and accomplishment to others? This is the simple key to getting what you want, we are all connected, and in that we have a duty and obligation to constantly act as though we are responsible for each other. All it takes is a smile to a stranger, a hug to a friend, an understanding ear, a random selfless act. Make that part of your daily ritual, who have you helped today? How have you acted selfless over the past year? month? day? hour?
- Leave the past behind: 2011 is over, hell last minute is over! Leave it in the past, so many times we just live int he past where we thought we should do things different, or moments where our lives were better, or focused on people who are no longer around. Guess what? aint gonna change now. Today is all we have, and while you are dwelling on the past, your current memories are being wasted. My 95 year old grandfather can barely get out of bed, he’s allowed to dwell in the past, you, who are vibrant and young and alive and well has the luxury now to create amazing moments that will stay with you when you are old. Be the creator every day and live your life like no body’s business!
- Take accountability: How many times during a conflict have we just easily removed ourselves from the equation and blamed the other party? This year, look back at all the challenges you faced in 2011 and write down where you actually could have been better, acted better, responded better, was less reactive, and take responsibility for your contribution. The sooner as we start realizing we are accountable for everything that happens in our lives one way or another, the sooner we will be able to create real change and evolve into better people and manifest better lives with less of the same challenges and more fulfillment. It takes a big person to admit that they are wrong or sorry, but conflict is so overrated, and harmony is a much better place to reside.
- Have a little faith!: And finally, when all else fails, just let go and let God. The universe knows what it’s doing… That has been my new mantra, and when you release and relinquish control then you will see the reasons behind life’s ups and downs much more clearly. You will start noticing more blessings in your challenges, you will be more understanding of the unknown mysteries, more opportunities will manifest and the miracles will start unveiling.
All to often our New Years resolutions involve external missions, lose weight, make more money, get out of debt, buy a car. Those are all great! and should be on your vision board and manifestation list. But, when you feed your soul, there is no better reward, no greater prosperity and the path to true fulfillment will be paved with gold…. Ok who are we kidding? You are still going to be challenged, angry, frustrated, BUT, when you practice the above and those steps become more prominent in your life, you will start to see change, you will start to feel more motivated, uplifted and your happy moments will start to outweigh your sad ones. In fact! what will happen is that you will start seeing blessings and opportunity in your sad moments, and the power that this gives you as an individual can be indestructible and insurmountable.
And of course if you ever need assistance with creating a life that is filled with prosperity, you know who to call! Have a blessed 2012!!
Blessings and Prosperity,
Where did all the blessings go?
Life for me over the past few years has been extremely interesting. There are times in your life when you sit back and you think “man life really feels good” I remember I had that moment in 2009, I was sitting at the table and thinking about all that I did that year… My business was at an all time high, I went and saw my family in Israel, I just got my new Audi TTS, was living in my new condo with my hot boyfriend and awesome dog and life was great!
It’s funny that when we are in those moments we tend to forget how fleeting they can be… When life’s challenges unravel, suddenly we couldn’t be further from that moment. And we forget, how it felt, and because we forget we feel like it’s unachievable and then we just end up in a spiral downward. I’ve seen it, and I have felt it.
And one day you are just faced with a choice, and it seems like every day becomes that choice… do I take the green pill or blue pill? Is this a path of succumbing to the fear or is it of acknowledging the blessing? (no I wasn’t talking about Prozac vs Zoloft)
But where did all the blessings go?
That’s what I wanted to know… So I went searching, because I had no other choice, I knew who I was and I know who I’m destined to become! (that which I already am) My hot boyfriend, became my husband! I expanded into the LA market and am successfully growing, I went to Italy on an amazing trip! And all the while I’m still faced with that same decision, because I acknowledge that some days the blessings are hard to see and it all becomes so daunting.
I remember days when I didn’t want to get out of bed, but man my bed is super comfortable and I made sure I acknowledged that even at my saddest.
Find a bit of Joy…
Every day I have committed to finding my Joy. At the end of the day that’s all we want, is to experience joy! Everyday we have it, whether it’s in a smile or a huge bonus, or moving, or a hug… it’s there… some days it’s harder to find then others, which is why one of my client’s and I have made a promise to ourselves that every day we will find our joy and commit to writing it to each other in an email no matter what! no matter where!
We are starting a movement called FIND YOUR JOY! I actually just thought of that now as I was writing this blog. Get ready!!
Things always change. Ain’t that the truth, no sense in fighting it… all we can try to do is just roll with it and when it gets too hard, find the little blessings and you will find your joy.
Blessings and Prosperity,
